Fairy tale is for everyone but me

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In Disney's fairy tale animations, princesses, no matter how dire how situations might be, they would always meet a guy richer and in a better position in life who lifted their status in life overnight.

Look at Cinderella and Belle in Beauty and the Beast.

I thought...well...fairy tales are just what they are. Fairy tales. Idealistic stories that in real life couldn't happen.

Little did I know how wrong I was!

I couldn't believe fairy tales were happening to people all around me.

In my ex-company, my supervisor was able to live in a landed property because it was a gift given to One him by his father-in-law!

In one personal development class that I went to, a lady shared with us a group of ladies that the first day she went out with her then-boyfriend she knew that he was the one and they married in a week!

A third example occurred on my cousin. For years, she told everyone she hated marriage and would never see herself marrying. However, in her late twenties, she suddenly changed her mind. She didn't have to go to any blind-dating session.  She even have a strict criteria that the guy must be a Singaporean Chinese, not a Caucasian (in Singapore colloquial term, it is ang-moh). Her eldest brother found her a boyfriend that met her criteria. They dated for a year and the guy proposed. The guy was rich as he drove his car and his parents lived in a landed property in an expensive estate in Singapore. He spoke mainly English and very little Chinese. In Singapore, it meant that he came from a very privileged family background as it was the people who could speak English very well advanced well ahead of everyone else.

I was always told if you don't want something, you wouldn't have it. Even if you suddenly want something, you have to have patience and pray hard and have faith. But no. My cousin didn't have to go through the trial of patience and faith.

I have to be criticised by many people around me for my looks, my busy work and my requirements. Well, I have to have certain criteria right. I can't possibly pick up any man from the streets right? This concerns my lifetime happiness and so, shouldn't I be more choosy? Also, everyone is busy these days? Why was I accused of being a busy bee when many times it was the guys who were busy with their career? My cousin wasn't criticised for her looks even when her face was full of acne. She wasn't criticised when she didn't want to get married. But I have to go through all of those tribulations.

I have sincerely pray for God to please bestow me a good boyfriend. I have worked on improving myself, including how I look, my skincare routine, what I wear, how I communicate, and in my professional knowledge. I have sought and implemented improvements in many areas of my life so that I could encounter and attract better guys. But no matter how many temples I went to, how many Tarot card readings I have, how many numerology sessions I have, my love life is simply just a gray tunnel. It was a tunnel started in year 2006 when I suddenly realised I would like to have a man in my life and up till last year. It was a total of 10 years. A decade of searching, heartbreaks, falling and crawling up.

I finally have a new boyfriend. He was a nice guy with a good character but was poor like me. But we both have the same dream of striking rich with our hard work and vision. I hope together we can have a promising future. We have a long way to go. I guess for me, I have to create my own fairy tale instead of getting my fortune through marriage with a rich guy. But at least, I'm happy that I have a guy now who loves me truly for who I am and deeply concerns about my affairs.

To single women who are still seeking love, I hope you find your fairy tale soon like me after a decade of searching. I hope your search will be faster than mine. Good luck this year!

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Beauty and the Beast

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Disney's recreation of the classic fairy tale story "Beauty and the Beast" will be out soon in March 2017. I am looking forward to it very much and I plan to spend ticket money to go to the cinema theatre to watch it. It will be my first movie in a cinema theatre since 3 or 4 years ago. It will star Emma Watson (Belle) and Dan Stevens (Beast). I love this story very much. Even though the last time I watched Disney's animated version of Beauty and the Beast was more than a decade ago when I was a kid, I couldn't forget the story, the beautiful Belle, the monstrous but kind Beast, the romantic love story between them, how the smell was broken by pure and true love and of course, the beautiful music scattered throughout the film composed by the genius Alan Menken.

However, as I try to find love in my own life, I really struggle. Every corner I turn into, I have to face the rejection due to not being very pretty.

I wonder if Beauty is not really a beauty, would her match with the Beast still be a success? If the Beast doesn't find Belle a pretty girl, would he still fall in love with her? If Belle is not the most beautiful girl in town, would the brawny but brainless Gaston still take notice of her?

Belle has been successful finding true love not only because of her good nature, but because of her above-average good looks.

I love this story so much and I thought every girl will have this kind of happy story in her life. I am a bit disillusioned because the stark reality is rather harsh. I overlooked the fact that Belle was a beauty and it would be easier to be successful in finding a man who would love her back.

However, I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Because it was God who gave me my looks, there must a good reason for it. I don't think God put me here on Earth to go through the mortals' moderns weapons of beauty such as cosmetic surgery and breast enhancement. There must be better and bigger things awaiting me, right? God must be trying to teach me to look beyond beauty and to look down into a person's heart right?

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