It's just maybe, not an affirmative yes

This guy asked for my preferred time, date, and venue. I regretted telling him my preference because I felt it was a waste of time. What is the point of me telling you my preference when it is your preference that matters more? 

Something is very wrong with the head of this guy. "I don't know that you are so busy." So what was he actually assuming? He was saying "everyone is busy" but then he didn't think I was busy. What's wrong with him? The most important issue is, even if I'm not so busy, does it give you the right to set a date and time to meet and then cancel at the last minute? This guy has already said the date and time are okay for him, only venue was not so convenient. Yet he just unilaterally cancelled the date without proposing another location. What's strange also was that he agreed to the date and time and then at the last minute informed me that it was inconvenient for him. He could have the courtesy and the decency to apologies for inappropriately agreeing to the date and time instead of pushing the blame on me and said the time and date that I proposed was not good for him when he didn't object to it in the first place.

People of course need to work. Are you saying you are a person and needs to work but I'm not a person and doesn't need to work? And yes, I set the area and timing because you asked me to set my preferred time and date. Then you come around and blame me for not setting the date and time that are suitable for you. What a foolish man!

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Passing the Facial Compatibility Test

As if the beauty test wasn't enough, I found myself dealing with men who seek compatible looks with their faces.

Maybe this is just another excuse...

Perhaps, this is another way to tell me not to bother them because I'm just not pretty enough for them. Or maybe, this is what Chinese called "couple looks". Sometimes, people want to seek out partners who look similar to them. They want their friends an relatives to say, "you both do look like a couple".

What to do? 

Try the next guy instead.

P.S. By the way, the guy that I mentioned in the picture above who actually agreed to meet me on that day but didn't inform me that he wasn't turning up was Muhammed Jabir (read my post about him ""you are not that pretty"").

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I can't promise that I can meet you for dinner because ...

"I can't promise you I can meet you next Tuesday night for dinner because I might need to work over time."

A guy told me the exacts words above in a Whatsapp message.

Here's his Modus Operandi: he would ask me when I could meet him. I would then tell him the date and time (usually evenings after my work on weekdays as I need to give full day tuition classes to my students). But he would then say he couldn't determine whether he would have to work overtime. He even asked whether I needed to do overtime (meaning that I should be understanding that he has work commitment to meet).

If I could have the permission to be aggressive, I would give me a slap on his face.

Sure, sometime I have to work overtime. But when I promise someone I would meet with him, I would make sure that I finish my work fast that day so that I don't have to cancel my appointment. I would even decline work and tell my boss I would work on it the next day instead as I already had an appointment. This is time management.

After two re-arrangement of times and dates, I stopped contacting him. I am scared of this type of guy. If I met with an accident, would he say, "I don't know if I can visit you in hospital because I don't know if I need to work overtime."? Or, if I'm giving birth, would he say, "I don't know if I can see the birth of our child because I don't know if I need to work overtime."?

This guy definitely doesn't feel that he can control his own time. What makes him think he can handle a relationship and subsequently a marriage when he cannot even manage this small part of his life?

Whether you have time or not is a matter of commitment, not whether you have this or that work to do. Everyone has work. Everyone has some overtime to do. But why is it that you are the only one who cannot be certain you can turn up on an evening for dinner?

That is why I'm furious. I find that his logic is very silly.

Why doesn't he just say:

I can't marry you because I cannot be sure whether I will divorce you.
I can't have kids with you because I cannot be sure whether I will have time for them.
I can't meet your friends because I cannot be sure whether they will like me.

Just for Laughs! But I'm serious seriously too.

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Whatsapp: Your New (Maybe Not So New) Dating Tool

I know Tinder. You know it too.

I know some of those dating websites. You know too. The one I signed up before was eSynchrony.

I know some of those dating and match-making agencies out there. You know them too. Goodluck Matching agency at POMO. It's Just Lunch. Lunch Actually. Rings a bell in you?

There are also some people who post ads looking for boyfriends and girlfriends using online personnel classifieds such as Locanto.

For a long time, this is what I think of dating:

• You meet people through your own social circle of friends, interest groups, workplace, dating apps, dating websites, and dating agencies.
• Then someone is interested in you and you are also interested in him/her and so both of you started chatting a bit.
• Then if things seem to go on fine, both of you decide to go further by talking on the phone or even meeting up face to face.

With the popularity of messaging apps like Whatsapp, I find that talking on the phone has been completely substituted by messaging. This is NEW to me. I never know that so many guys like to date girls using Whatsapp.

These days, after getting my contact number, the guys will usually whatsapp me and then we just chat there. A lot of time is spent chatting about my education , work, interests and hobbies and things got very boring after you repeat the same content over and over again to each and every guy who contacts you. I wonder when they want to start meeting up. So these days, after a while, I just ask the guy straight whether he want to meet up or not so that I don't waste my time on the wrong guy who has no intention of meeting a real girl for the purpose of finding one to settle down with.

I wonder why they don't want to meet up as soon as possible. How much will they "really know" a person by asking the person to share his/her details through a messaging app? A person's character can only be accurately determined if you interact with him/her personally.

Even if you chatted well on whatsapp, it doesn't mean both of you will be a good match after meeting online. If you are looking for someone to settle down, get off from whatsapp fast and meet up! You are going to be married to a real person, not a phone.

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5 Dating Ideas to Bring You and Your Date Closer Together and Avoid a Dating Nightmare

Let me tell you honestly. I think movie-watching is really a lousy and boring activity to do for a date. After a few dates with different men watching different movies, my mood has always dampened after a show. There's no interaction at all during a show when interaction is the most important element in a relationship during dating.

I wonder who came up with the idea of watching movies during a date. I would rather be in the outdoor spaces where a couple can walk around and talk to each other or visit interesting places or do interesting activities.

I am based in Singapore, so I can only give you places that I know in Singapore. I hope similar places are found in your countries and you can try it.

NUMBER #1 : Escape Rooms

Image Source: HerWorldPlus online

Here are the top 9 places to experience the Escape Rooms challenge:

http://www.xcape.sg/
http://lost.sg/
http://www.trapped.sg/
http://www.breakout.com.sg/
http://lockdown.sg/
http://singapore.escapehunt.com/
http://exitplan.sg/
http://www.realegame.sg/
http://www.theescapeartist.sg/

I am sure that whatever you choose, the two of you will become even closer together. That's the nature of the activity after all.


NUMBER #2 : Chills out in bars along the Singapore River and then take a walk along it

Image Source: Weekender Singapore

The Singapore River becomes a mesmerising place when night comes. There is a Central shopping centre with many restaurants and fashion shops; there's a famous JUMBO Seafood restaurant nearby; and there are many pubs along the river.

After a dinner, you can get down to the pubs to chill out or just simply walk along the river and have an intimate talk with your date.


NUMBER #3 : The Singapore Flyer

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The two of you can book a cubicle and have an exclusive space all to yourself for a while and enjoy the romantic panoramic view at the same time. Take the opportunities to take lots of pictures together and have lots of laughter.

NUMBER #4 : Art Science Museum

Image Source: Wikipedia

If you want to learn something and want a more relaxing activity with your date, Art Science Museum is definitely one place to consider. It is located in Marina Bay Sands which is very accessible from many shopping malls around. If budget is not problem, both of you can have your dinner at Marina Bay Sands Shoppes where many restaurants are opened by world-renowned celebrity chefs. If you want something more affordable, after a dinner at any nearby shopping mall, you can easily walk down to this museum and spend the last one or two hours together.


NUMBER #5 : The Esplanade

Image Source: singaporetravelweb.com

How about something that is more artistic? There are daily art exhibits and music performances that you can go to with your date after a dinner.

Have a romantic night!

Do you have something that you think it's better than this list? Leave your comments below.

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