The most boring and ordinary list of characteristics to look for in a boyfriend

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Now and then, especially during festive season like Christmas, New Year or Chinese New Year, someone on Facebook would send me a message to wish me good luck, good health, happiness and prosperity for me and my husband and children. Then, I would thank them but told them that I was single and I had never been married nor did I have any children. I would also tell them that I didn't even have a boyfriend.

Almost always, they would be shocked and asked me, "You are over 30 years old. Why are you still not married? Are you expectations too high?

Usually, I would reply "I don't know why I'm not married". This is really from the bottom of my heart. I'm also very lazy to talk about it because I'm so tired explaining to people why I'm not married. I mean, I have done a lot. I have done all those that are within my control. I have learnt basic makeup skills so I can doll up myself presentably during dates. My complexion has really improved a lot since the time I graduated from university. I almost have no acne scars on my face. I wore skirts and feminine shoes. I have gone for many dates. I have chatted with so many guys. I have gone to the temples to pray. When I was in Israel for work, I even went to the West Wall (also called the Wailing Wall) to pray hard for a boyfriend. The tour guide was telling us a true love story that happened on him. He was trying to find a wife for a long time but shortly after he prayed at the West Wall, his wife appeared. So, I really don't know what happened. However, miracle still hasn't appeared. I really need to submit myself to God. There are just some things in this world which is divine. Gradually, I stopped being so hard on myself. I learn to take things easy and try not to tired myself out trying to seek an explanation that is impossible to find out. And so, all I can tell these people is, "I don't know".

My expectation is not high. This is a list of the characteristics I look out for. You will see that the criteria may even not be as stringent as some other women. So men, please stop your assumption and accusation that it is always the girl's fault for having high expectations. Maybe it's the guys who have unrealistic expectations causing many women like me to remain unattached for such a long time.

My list:

• Caring
• Loving
• Respectful
• Have a job
• Taller than I am, more than 1.65m
• Hardworking
• Don't smoke
• Don't drink
• Allow me to speak my mind
• Chinese preferred
• At least diploma education

What's yours?

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There are two types of real cheats

First Type:
There are some guys who chat very nicely with girls, full of sweet words that girls like to hear. Yet, they never have the intention of meeting the girls. They would say how much they wanted to meet you but when the actual date came, they would cancel at the last minute, not because they really had a legitimate reason but just some fake reasons that they could think of so that they didn't need to meet you.

And then, when you want to chat with them through the phone to listen to their voice, they come up with excuses like they are at work, so they cannot pick up the call. Are these guys think girls are such simpletons to believe their stories? Even if you are at work and cannot call, you can always give a call back at the end of the day?

This is the second time I encounter this kind of guy in my life. Thankfully, I saw through his tricks. In this post, I want you to know the tricks of this kind of guy. Beware of falling into their love traps. The only person who gets hurt is you only and that guy will be having his last laugh.

Second Type:
There are guys who tell you that they feel you are okay for them and then disappear without a word. I hated guys even more when they said they are straightforward and wouldn't waste anyone's time and yet when it came to making a decision to see if they wanted to continue to develop a deeper relationship with a girl, they couldn't bring themselves to tell the girl directly that they were not interested. Instead, they told the girls, like what this guy told me, that they were fine with them, giving the girls a false sense of being accepted and then disappeared without a word.

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It's just maybe, not an affirmative yes

This guy asked for my preferred time, date, and venue. I regretted telling him my preference because I felt it was a waste of time. What is the point of me telling you my preference when it is your preference that matters more? 

Something is very wrong with the head of this guy. "I don't know that you are so busy." So what was he actually assuming? He was saying "everyone is busy" but then he didn't think I was busy. What's wrong with him? The most important issue is, even if I'm not so busy, does it give you the right to set a date and time to meet and then cancel at the last minute? This guy has already said the date and time are okay for him, only venue was not so convenient. Yet he just unilaterally cancelled the date without proposing another location. What's strange also was that he agreed to the date and time and then at the last minute informed me that it was inconvenient for him. He could have the courtesy and the decency to apologies for inappropriately agreeing to the date and time instead of pushing the blame on me and said the time and date that I proposed was not good for him when he didn't object to it in the first place.

People of course need to work. Are you saying you are a person and needs to work but I'm not a person and doesn't need to work? And yes, I set the area and timing because you asked me to set my preferred time and date. Then you come around and blame me for not setting the date and time that are suitable for you. What a foolish man!

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