Ugly women: Sorry, you are out of the game arena

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As a child, when I watched Cinderella, everything is straightforward. Cinderella had endured a lot of hardship. She lost her parents at a young age and was tortured by her stepmother to work long hours everyday. She had to wake up before everyone else and had only to sleep when others had long gone to bed. However, she had a heart made of gold. She was refined, cultured, and full of kindness. Therefore, it was only right that the Prince chose her and she deserved everlasting happiness.

But as I grew up, I thought about more aspects. (That's a problem of being an adult. Sometimes, we may be thinking too much about unnecessary things that do not exist at all.)

Could Anastasia and Drizella, the stepsisters of Cinderella, have lost out because they were not as beautiful as Cinderella?

Many would argue that that is not the case. This is because the stepsisters are evil. They have a wicked heart and are self-centred. So, they don't deserve to have the love of the Prince.

But what if the stepsisters have a good heart but are ugly? What if they are better in character than Cinderella but not as pretty as Cinderella? Would the prince choose the stepsisters over Cinderella? Maybe.

Could the Prince have chosen Cinderella if she was not that pretty? 

If Cinderella was average-looking, could the Prince still have spotted her and danced with her? Maybe not. This is because the Prince couldn't have known Cinderella's character just from her looks.

Although I really don't like all those "constructive criticism" (people have told me to keep long hair, wear contact lenses instead of glasses, eat more to gain more weight, put on thicker makeup, wear more brightly coloured clothes, straighten my teeth, saw my jaws, have breast enhancement, pull my legs so that I can gain height, go for plastic surgery to have double eyelids so that my eyes appear bigger), but they are all true. In the beginning, I was quite stubborn. I chose not to listen. But then reality informs me that it's true. When I chatted with men, the first thing they want to know is my height and weight and age and full-body photo. Usually, after I sent my photo, that would be the end of the line. I never hear anything from them anymore. So I understood how cruel the dating world can be.

I have already tried my best to do whatever I can with the resources that I have. But still, for those feedback that suggested me to undergo surgery, I simply can't do it. How can I risk my body for men who don't even care about who I really am?

So, bottom line: single women, take care of your appearance. It helps.


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Beauty determines everything in dating

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I never thought that beauty was the only thing that matters in dating and finding a life partner until I step out into the real world. My mother told me the key to good life is a good education. So, I really focused on that.

I felt a bit regretful for not learning about make up and dressing sexily when I was younger. But then, I really have very little interest in those things. When one doesn't have interest, why would she bother to find out?

I thought the best thing was to do was to have good skincare and that it didn't matter whether I had makeup on my face.

My 3 mantras about beauty:

Beauty is only skin deep.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Inner beauty is better than outer beauty.

All the while, I subscribed to those mantras in my life. I was of the belief if I always showed my true self, be myself, that guys would see I'm real and would take interest in me.

For years, I waited for a guy.

It was only after I went to dating agencies, talked to female friends, listened to unsolicited advice from relatives and from countless sharing of my photo with guys on Whatsapp that I finally became more self-conscious. I'm not ugly, but compared to many average-looking girls, I have below-average looks. Many guys were more interested in my weight and height and pestering me to send them my photos than asking me about my interests. It seemed many of them were only interested in my physical attributes than my other intangible attributes. Do they realise that 20 years later I will just be an old lady and beauty won't matter anymore from that time onwards?

However, the reality of dating is such.

So, I went to some course that teach about grooming and after some experimentation, I found some haircuts and makeup colours that suited me more than others. I hope this will help to increase my chance.

If you don't think you have an attractive appearance, start to read more fashion magazines, window-shop more, take care of your skin and groom yourself better. This is a practical world and beauty is more important than anything else. Even if you are 70 years old but you look half the age, some guys would still want you.

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Dating Nightmares: Merry Christmas 2016 to all Single Women! May you find love during this lovely season!

Dear All,

Thanks for your support for this blog throughout this year. I still have a lot to learn about how to write better blog posts and be a better blogger. If you have any feedback, I would love to hear from you. Just fill up the feedback form found on the side of this blog or just leave a comment below to let me know what you think.

The purpose of this blog is to share my dating experience so that women who are still single and still looking out for that special man in their lives would benefit from my dating ideas here, read about my dating failures and try to avoid them as much as possible. So, the major audience this blog is for is for you single women out there still looking for love.

For men, maybe you will find this blog as an entertainment. But perhaps, you can learn from here some of your practices that irks women out there. If you seriously want to find a life partner, make sure you read this blog.

I hope I will find that special person in my life soon and I sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, wish that you, the single woman out there, too, will find the same.

A Happy Merry Christmas 2016!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

With Love,
Sharon
Your Dating Blogger & Advisor

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