Thanks Shrek for the hope you give

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Synopsis of Shrek can be found at Wikipedia here.

Many Disney princesses are beauty themselves and I think this helps them a lot in finding their princes in life. This is a fairy tale I couldn't live with.

I love Shrek much more than those Disney animations as it is closer to the reality I'm living in. I'm not pretty and I said this a thousand times in this blog. I received many so-called "constructive criticism" to go under the knife to change how I look. But Shrek's story reminds us that with inner beauty, we can find love as well and that love is truer than love based on looks. It also reminds her we can always find someone compatible. We don't always have to fix our outer beauty.

Princess Fiona and Lord Farquaad could get married but Fiona would only be wanted by the lord because of her looks and his desire for power. There was no love to talk about. He also didn't risk his life to rescue Fiona from the fiery dragon. Fiona won't be happy and she would be better staying alone locked up in the tower guarded by the dragon. How could she have happiness when the Lord didn't have the the courage to act like a man to save her from danger?

However, Shrek looked at Fiona in a different way. He truly loved her for who she was and thought she was the most beautiful and wonderful woman in his life. He was also the one who dealt with the dragon and released Fiona from her imprisonment, so he truly deserved Fiona. The intangible qualities of two people coming together, for example, the comfort, chemistry and the bond of two persons, are more important than comparing cold hard data like wealth, power and beauty.

However, the solitary life of Shrek also means that this kind of man is harder to find. So if you want to find him faster, you got to work hard and take the initiative to seek him out through as many dating channels as possible.

I wrote about different dating channels in an older post, Here's the link.

Good luck!

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Ugly + Educated = Low Quality Women

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Ugly + Educated = Low Quality Women

Why this equation?

Because I can see only low quality men wanting me to be their girlfriend.

Men who are Indians and cannot find Indian women to be their girlfriends.

Men who are Muslims and cannot find Muslim women to be their girlfriends.

Men who are unemployed or poor.

Men who are chauvinistic and expect women to listen to their orders (in the 21st century! I am not kidding you!)

Men who are divorced.

Men who are over 50 years old.

Men who are recuperating from serious illnesses.

Men who only have primary school education.

Men who don't groom themselves.

Men who are always busy flying here and there and still want to date girls and expect their girlfriends to spend most of her time alone.

Do these men think I'm such a low quality woman?

I have worked hard in life to get a good education with very little resources in my families. When I was young, there wasn't enough food to eat sometimes and I went hungry through the nights. Don't I deserve something better now? Or is it because of my God-given ugly looks that I'm not perceived as high quality woman?

The worst thing is my parents have given me their combined looks and they have no idea why I can't get a proper boyfriend and still place the entire blame on me.

I hope that the ugly duckling that I am now can become a beautiful swan in the future and that means going under the knife for my face and teeth, the two biggest weaknesses in my looks.

To me, as I have said in my previous posts, inner beauty is the most important. I would rather work on my brain and my mind rather than going for something superficial as looks. So, that big equation at the top is really meant to explain how other people perceive you and me. Yes, many successful people will say, "don't care about what other people say about you". However, the reality is people must be willing to perceive you in a good light before you can become successful or popular. People want to look at someone with pleasant looks.

Work on your looks as well as on your brains and minds to gain double competitive edge over other women.

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Ugly women: Sorry, you are out of the game arena

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As a child, when I watched Cinderella, everything is straightforward. Cinderella had endured a lot of hardship. She lost her parents at a young age and was tortured by her stepmother to work long hours everyday. She had to wake up before everyone else and had only to sleep when others had long gone to bed. However, she had a heart made of gold. She was refined, cultured, and full of kindness. Therefore, it was only right that the Prince chose her and she deserved everlasting happiness.

But as I grew up, I thought about more aspects. (That's a problem of being an adult. Sometimes, we may be thinking too much about unnecessary things that do not exist at all.)

Could Anastasia and Drizella, the stepsisters of Cinderella, have lost out because they were not as beautiful as Cinderella?

Many would argue that that is not the case. This is because the stepsisters are evil. They have a wicked heart and are self-centred. So, they don't deserve to have the love of the Prince.

But what if the stepsisters have a good heart but are ugly? What if they are better in character than Cinderella but not as pretty as Cinderella? Would the prince choose the stepsisters over Cinderella? Maybe.

Could the Prince have chosen Cinderella if she was not that pretty? 

If Cinderella was average-looking, could the Prince still have spotted her and danced with her? Maybe not. This is because the Prince couldn't have known Cinderella's character just from her looks.

Although I really don't like all those "constructive criticism" (people have told me to keep long hair, wear contact lenses instead of glasses, eat more to gain more weight, put on thicker makeup, wear more brightly coloured clothes, straighten my teeth, saw my jaws, have breast enhancement, pull my legs so that I can gain height, go for plastic surgery to have double eyelids so that my eyes appear bigger), but they are all true. In the beginning, I was quite stubborn. I chose not to listen. But then reality informs me that it's true. When I chatted with men, the first thing they want to know is my height and weight and age and full-body photo. Usually, after I sent my photo, that would be the end of the line. I never hear anything from them anymore. So I understood how cruel the dating world can be.

I have already tried my best to do whatever I can with the resources that I have. But still, for those feedback that suggested me to undergo surgery, I simply can't do it. How can I risk my body for men who don't even care about who I really am?

So, bottom line: single women, take care of your appearance. It helps.


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