Different, different, but same

There was a Singapore politician (ex current Manpower Minister Lim Swee Say) [A reader pointed out to me that I got my fact wrong! He should be the current not ex minister. I'm so sorry I didn't check before writing this and my memory has failed me! This is no laughing matter! Apologies.]who once made such a comment, "We are same-same but different." This isn't a grammatically-correct sentence but let's not distract us from the meaning he was attempting to convey. He was basically trying to tell the Singapore masses that although they were all Singaporeans, but there are some differences, such as social class, race, and economic status.

So, I made a complete spin on his famous phrase "same-same but different", coming up with "different-different but same" to share with you the latest dating nightmare I've experienced.

Every time I meet a really good guy, I always thought, "Yes! Finally, I'm going to settle down this time." But it always ends abruptly and I don't know why. This screenshot was taken very recently, as you can see the date was not even reflected yet. The date was 14 September 2016, Wednesday.

The week before that, I was still chatting with this guy and "kiss" goodnight through WeChat. I already knew him for about a month! However, just a week a later, he suddenly blocked me (or perhaps deleted me from his contact list) and my messages couldn't be sent through anymore. I have to send to friend request to him and only after he accepts it will I only be able to chat with him again.

I have so many of such cases before where guys disappeared suddenly without any word and I don't know why! He told me he was not such a person and repeatedly asked me to trust him. He was always very angry when I compared his behaviour to those men I met before him. In the end, he is a different man from others, but still the same too.

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When he has not contacted you for some time

You just know this great guy a few months ago.

Every time you saw new colleagues of his, he would never hesitate to introduce you to them. You thought, "Wow! He's really into me!".

He even talked to you about all of his family members: his father, mother, sisters and brothers. He told you that he had told them about you and he wanted to bring you to meet with them soon.

He brought you to romantic places like the quiet beaches on the east and west coasts, looking at fish farms, boats, ships and enjoying the beautiful sunsets under the sprawling branches of raintrees. You thought that would be your last boyfriend.

But, he suddenly went MIA.

He told you he's busy with work. He told you he had no days off, not even the weekends and not even on public holidays. Even when he finally had a day off for rest, he told you he's too tired and wanted to rest and wouldn't be able to meet you, his "lovely girlfriend and future wife".

This goes on for a week.

A week goes on to be a month.

A month goes on to be several months.

You haven't received any phone calls or chat messages from him asking about you. It is very obvious he's not into you any more. There's no need for you to harbour any hope. If you are still hoping, then wait for him to contact you and don't take any action on your own. You don't have to waste your energy and time on such a man.

It's time to stop thinking about him.

It's time to let go.

It's time to be heartbroken, but take care not to bear a grudge as things do happen and sometimes we don't know the reason and so, don't be hard on yourself.

It's time to move on and love yourself. Ask yourself what's your life purpose and do something about it. It is more fruitful to do that a leave something positive for other people then to be drown in sorrow by the irresponsible actions of someone who claimed he loved you.

You deserve better.

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