Sick men

So, I have a boyfriend now, a Chinese man with a proper education background, a proper, a nice friendly family, and someone with good attitude towards work and life.

So, I am a normal girl, a very normal young woman.

Yet, a few months ago in October 2016, a guy who saw my Locanto ad and contacted me, criticised me and said I was sick, therefore I was still single.

This was what happened:

He asked me why I was still single at 31 years old.

I told him  that I didn't know why.

He then proceeded to say my expectations were too high.

After this statement from him, I blasted all kinds of words at him

I told him that he hadn't asked what my expectations were, so it was not right for him to assume. I told him assuming means making an asshole of you and me. I told him not to assume that it was always the girls' fault if they couldn't find a boyfriend. I told him not to make silly judgement like that. I told him to reflect what he had just said. I told the guys also had problems and girls should not be blamed unnecessarily for still being single. I told him that sometimes it was the guys who had high expectations not the girls.

He then said, "u r sick".

After which, I rebutted him. I also said to him, "you are the sick one, not me".

Yes, I am sick. I am sick for standing up for what's right. I am sick for standing up to men who always assume they have no problem and it is always the females' problem and high expectations that are causing to be single.

It show me how ignorant, arrogant, chauvinistic a man you are! It also kinda show you are a simpleton.

Good luck to you in your search for a girlfriend. You won't be able to have me because I'm normal and you are sick.

Do you encounter sick men like that who always criticise women for being single? Let me know.

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How to celebrate your birthday when all your friends are married and you are still single

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Happy Birthday to ME!

When I was five years old, I remembered my mother throwing big birthday party at home for me. There were lots of foods and sweets and she made them all by herself. I particularly like the agar cake she made.

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As I grew older, my mum would make longevity noodles which she would accompany it with a hard-boiled red-dyed egg. The longevity noodles are very long orange-coloured noodles to symbolise long life and the red egg is for good luck.

Source: Red-dyed eggs (http://7015humcuratingtheeveryday.blogspot.sg/)

In schools, classmates would also hold monthly birthday celebrations for those born in a certain month.

After graduation from the university and stepping into the working world, this tradition continued and colleagues would throw birthday lunches.

But then family arguments got worse and my relationship with a mum took a nose dive.

My father never remembered about my birthday and never once bought any present for me or celebrated it any way.

Gradually, as I grow older, I can see female friends and colleagues going out to celebrate with their boyfriends, and then husbands and then with their children.

For the past few years, I have been celebrating by myself and watching others with envy. Why is it me?

These few years, I would just sleep early and get a good rest on my birthday because resting is a luxurious thing for me to do actually. It's a form of pampering. Sometimes, I would just enjoy reading a good book.

It was only last year that I applied for a one day off from the company I'm working in because it offered a birthday leave whereas all the companies which I had previously worked with had no such benefit. So I really appreciate this company for putting in such a benefit. It's a small measure but very thoughtful.

This year I have a new boyfriend at the beginning of the year. He's a Chinese and down-to-earth, sincere and doesn't seem like he will cheat me. This year is definitely a big change from all the previous years.

Happy birthday to you single women out there who are born on the same day as me or in the same month as me and still looking for love!

You are not alone! I'm here with you! 

You are not forgotten. Happy Birthday!!! It's the day to love and pamper yourself!!! Enjoy whatever you love to do!!! It's your day!!! Cherish your days on earth!!! And continue to be patient!!!



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Dating Nightmares: Happy Valentine's Day 2017!

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Hopefully you have a happy day today!

This blog is dedicated to single women like you and me. I'm in my early 30s and have been finding a boyfriend for years.

I'm generally a happy person but Valentine's Day usually stirs up a lot of emotions in me.

In the public sphere, we all know that public figures have to put up a brave and happy front no matter how much sorrow they have in their heart.

But I'm not going to tell you that I'm happy just to let you perceive I'm a perfect person in this world.

Valentine's Day is, honestly speaking, one of the worst day of the year that I have to go through annually.

It feels terrible.

Yes, I do have friends who wish one another Happy Valentine's Day. But when my friends are going out with their boyfriends/girlfriends or are with their husbands/wives, I do feel very lonely. It's an honest emotion and I'm not going to hide it.

I have spent lonely evenings throughout all these years, watching from afar student couples hand-in-hand, colleagues who receive bouquets from their husbands or boyfriends, women holding to teddy bears and red roses on the streets.

Actually, I used to be very sad. But after my birthday last year, I suddenly changed my thinking. I accepted that if this is God's destiny for me, I have to accept it. So, I'm a little less hard up on myself now. You shouldn't be too hard up on yourself.

If you feel unhappy this day, I have a song dedicating to you, Celine Dion's My Heart Will Go On, for the tragic but romantic love story between Jack and Rose that happened on Titanic.

Click this link: My Heart Will Go On, by Celine Dion

This song is so beautiful and I love it and I hope you'll love it too.

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How many times have you had the "Why haven't you got married yet?" conversations?

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Many of my Facebook friends (all males) are surprised that I'm still single and I have been bombed with repeated questions of "Why haven't you got married?" many times. The way these guys asked questions are very routine and I always ended up answering the same set of questions over and over again.

I'm tired of answering. Over time, I have come up with a routine on how to answer such questions. This is how it usually goes:

Male Friend: You look pretty. Why haven't you got married?

Me: Because I don't have a boyfriend.

Male Friend: Why you don't have boyfriend?

Me: I don't know.

Male Friend: Are your standards too high?

Me: Definitely no.

Male Friend: If there's someone who is genuine, would you consider?
(they usually refer to themselves)

Me: Yes, of course I would consider.
Male Friend: I am single and I'm also looking for someone nice and genuine. Hope to see you soon.

Actually I wonder why they say that. These are usually foreign friends who has never seen me before. How would they be able to understand who I was? Moreover, even if I'm open to a relationship with them, how are we going to maintain the relationship when we are living in two different countries?

I don't believe in long-distance relationship by the way, at least not in the beginning stage of a relationship.

What's your way of dealing with the "Why haven't you got married yet?" question?

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