Tuesday, June 21, 2016

5 Dating Ideas to Bring You and Your Date Closer Together and Avoid a Dating Nightmare

Let me tell you honestly. I think movie-watching is really a lousy and boring activity to do for a date. After a few dates with different men watching different movies, my mood has always dampened after a show. There's no interaction at all during a show when interaction is the most important element in a relationship during dating.

I wonder who came up with the idea of watching movies during a date. I would rather be in the outdoor spaces where a couple can walk around and talk to each other or visit interesting places or do interesting activities.

I am based in Singapore, so I can only give you places that I know in Singapore. I hope similar places are found in your countries and you can try it.

NUMBER #1 : Escape Rooms

Image Source: HerWorldPlus online
Here are the top 9 places to experience the Escape Rooms challenge:

http://www.xcape.sg/
http://lost.sg/
http://www.trapped.sg/
http://www.breakout.com.sg/
http://lockdown.sg/
http://singapore.escapehunt.com/
http://exitplan.sg/
http://www.realegame.sg/
http://www.theescapeartist.sg/

I am sure that whatever you choose, the two of you will become even closer together. That's the nature of the activity after all.


NUMBER #2 : Chills out in bars along the Singapore River and then take a walk along it
Image Source: Weekender Singapore
The Singapore River becomes a mesmerising place when night comes. There is a Central shopping centre with many restaurants and fashion shops; there's a famous JUMBO Seafood restaurant nearby; and there are many pubs along the river.

After a dinner, you can get down to the pubs to chill out or just simply walk along the river and have an intimate talk with your date.


NUMBER #3 : The Singapore Flyer
Image Source: www.easygosg.com
The two of you can book a cubicle and have an exclusive space all to yourself for a while and enjoy the romantic panoramic view at the same time. Take the opportunities to take lots of pictures together and have lots of laughter.

NUMBER #4 : Art Science Museum
Image Source: Wikipedia
If you want to learn something and want a more relaxing activity with your date, Art Science Museum is definitely one place to consider. It is located in Marina Bay Sands which is very accessible from many shopping malls around. If budget is not problem, both of you can have your dinner at Marina Bay Sands Shoppes where many restaurants are opened by world-renowned celebrity chefs. If you want something more affordable, after a dinner at any nearby shopping mall, you can easily walk down to this museum and spend the last one or two hours together.


NUMBER #5 : The Esplanade
Image Source: singaporetravelweb.com
How about something that is more artistic? There are daily art exhibits and music performances that you can go to with your date after a dinner.

Have a romantic night!

Do you have something that you think it's better than this list? Leave your comments below.

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Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Which Dating Channel is the Best?


You are reading this post because you want to know which dating channel will give you the best investment of your time to finally find that great man or woman in your life and avoid as much of the nightmares in the dating arena as possible.

I'm sorry that you will be disappointed with my answer.

The answer is: Most are Good and There's Not a Single Best Channel.

There are many dating channels.

YES: Online Dating Websites
There are dozens of dating websites out there and there are successful stories, However, you must do the right thing. Register yourself at the more reputable websites where the communities are much larger than others and there are controls for scammers. The problem with dating online is there is no way to see the real person to determine his or her motive. There are both male and female scammers (some of the "female" scammers may actually be male scammers who are impersonators) and both men and women are equally likely to fall into scam traps. There are many guides about online dating that advise you how to best use a dating website, so I will not give much advice here. You just need to do two simple things: post a genuine picture of yourself and write genuinely and interestingly about yourself and write clearly about who you are seeking out to prevent those who are not your kind from contacting you. The most important thing that you need to know is that: it does work.

NO: Erotic Websites
There are also those sleazy and erotic websites. Do not mistaken these for dating websites. There are many men and women, single and married, young and old, on those websites who just want a no-strings-attached one-night fun. So you WILL NOT find true love here. Very highly unlikely. So don't waste your time here.

YES, BUT MORE NO: Online Personnel Classifieds
You might get a few genuine people there so this is still a channel you can look for your mate. However, similar to erotic websites, there are many people looking for no-obligation sex and there are scammers as well. Be careful and use your head to guide yourself when you are navigating the dating scene using this channel.

YES:Dating Agencies
There are quite a number of success stories. I am guessing because more work is done in analysing who you are really looking for and selecting those people who best meet your requirement. However, dating agencies vary in the qualities of their candidates. That said, it does not mean that budget dating agencies will always have bad candidates and that higher-end dating agencies will always give you the good candidates. Regardless of what agencies you go to,  However, you do need to select the agencies based on your budget. Otherwise you will waste not only your time, but also find that your wallet will quickly be depleted.

YES: Family Referral/Arranged Marriage
Personally, I don't have much experience with these channels as my parents and relatives have never referred any guys to me. But my cousin did share with me her experience. She was about 28 years old and she never had any boyfriend. Her eldest brother recommended someone to her. Bingo! One year later, that guy proposed to her and they took another year to get married and another year to settle down in their new house and in the fourth year, they had their first baby.

As for arranged marriage, I read about it in articles that it still works. I believe it works because the parents have already screened through so many candidates to settle on a final one for their child. It must have a higher chance to resulting in a match.

YES-NO: Friends' Referral
I read in many dating books, manuals and articles that referral from people you know are more likely to result in a successful match. I have highly hopeful of this actually until I tried it for the first time and it failed me, miserably. An ex-colleague of mine, who was kind of a friend, recommended that I could try hanging out with a new colleague that had joined the company and told me he's a quite a nice person. The guy also took the initiative to chat with me and message me and we went out for a meal. He asked me whether I would like to go to Malaysia with him for a weekend trip and I said "Yes". But that day never came. Every time I brought up the topic of the trip, he would tell me "soon". That soon never came for and it came for him. After a while, I saw his Facebook post that he went to Malaysia Legoland with his aunts and cousins. When I asked him about it, he just said "sorry" and never contacted me after that. I felt very cheated. I had a bad experience but I still believe a referral from someone you know is still more reliable than just hitching a stranger. So I will still encourage you to try this method though, but beware of the guy's motive.

YES: Hooking Up with a Colleague
I see this kind of thing very frequently. In many of the companies I worked in, I saw many couples who knew each other from their workplaces and married each other subsequently. The key thing to this is: be brave and approach the person you want to be with.

YES: Other Unorthodox Methods
These include all other places that you can be and all other events that you are involved in. A girl friend of mine told me that one of her girl friend met her husband while she was on an airplane travelling to Japan for a vacation. They exchanged phone numbers and subsequently dated each other and then the wedding bells rang. Are you as amazed as I am?


If you are still single, and want to settle down quickly, don't fret. As you can see, there are many ways to find that someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Now what you have to do is to take action. If you just lock yourself up in your home after work, no one will know of your existence. So...

TAKE ACTION!


AND GOOD LUCK!!!


AND LET ME KNOW YOUR GOOD NEWS!!!!!!


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Monday, June 13, 2016

When he has not contacted you for some time


You just know this great guy a few months ago.

Every time you saw new colleagues of his, he would never hesitate to introduce you to them. You thought, "Wow! He's really into me!".

He even talked to you about all of his family members: his father, mother, sisters and brothers. He told you that he had told them about you and he wanted to bring you to meet with them soon.

He brought you to romantic places like the quiet beaches on the east and west coasts, looking at fish farms, boats, ships and enjoying the beautiful sunsets under the sprawling branches of raintrees. You thought that would be your last boyfriend.

But, he suddenly went MIA.

He told you he's busy with work. He told you he had no days off, not even the weekends and not even on public holidays. Even when he finally had a day off for rest, he told you he's too tired and wanted to rest and wouldn't be able to meet you, his "lovely girlfriend and future wife".

This goes on for a week.

A week goes on to be a month.

A month goes on to be several months.

You haven't received any phone calls or chat messages from him asking about you. It is very obvious he's not into you any more. There's no need for you to harbour any hope. If you are still hoping, then wait for him to contact you and don't take any action on your own. You don't have to waste your energy and time on such a man.

It's time to stop thinking about him.

It's time to let go.

It's time to be heartbroken, but take care not to bear a grudge as things do happen and sometimes we don't know the reason and so, don't be hard on yourself.

It's time to move on and love yourself. Ask yourself what's your life purpose and do something about it. It is more fruitful to do that a leave something positive for other people then to be drown in sorrow by the irresponsible actions of someone who claimed he loved you.

You deserve better.

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